What builds over time when you keep standing in the three points.
When you can feel the lens, reality, and the body at the same time, you cannot become any one of them. You are the one experiencing all three. That position is the core.
No one has to imagine it, pretend to be it, or believe in it. Three points put you there. The core is not a concept — it is a position you stand in, in the body, as the one who feels. You learn its nature, its quality, and its presence by standing in it.
Bowlby described security as confidence in the availability of the attachment figure — not their perfection. Turned inward: self-trust is confidence in your own availability. Trust that the core is there, not that it is right. The core is the one who stays. Self-trust is knowing it will.
Built through repair. Mothers and babies are out of sync much of the time. Security comes from repairing the misses, not from perfect attunement. Inside, you will leave yourself sometimes. Self-trust is built by coming back. The returns are the evidence. It can be built at any age.
"Trust the core is there, not that it is right."
From the most mechanical to the most existential. Each rests on the ones before it. Trust does not mean something will always be right or never be painful — it means trusting the relationship.
After a hard moment today, say inside: I'm still here.
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